Virginia's lifestyle nights are built around Richmond. Virginia Friends has hosted monthly hotel takeovers in the Richmond area since 1993, for couples and single women only. The club floor is BYOB with mixers and snacks supplied, there is a licensed bar in the lounge, and newcomers get their own seminar lounge before the party gets going. For a smaller evening, Richmond Rondezvouz holds house parties at least twice a month at private homes, some with a hot tub or pool, cash at the door and an RSVP required.
Northern Virginia belongs to the Washington metro. Sinn-Ergy Events runs application-only Saturday parties around the region, and many NoVA couples simply drive to Shadows Private Club in Hyattsville, Maryland, which opens five nights a week. Black Diamonds, a pop-up community based in Alexandria that centers Black couples and people of color, also holds events around the DMV.
Hampton Roads, Roanoke and the Shenandoah Valley had no confirmed regular venues in September 2026, so couples there often plan a Richmond weekend around a Virginia Friends date. Virginia Friends announces each hotel ahead of time, so check the date and property before booking a room.
Clubs and organizers in Virginia
Virginia Friends · Richmond
Monthly hotel takeovers for couples and single women since 1993, 8 p.m. to 2 a.m., with a dance floor, newcomer seminar lounge, group room and theme rooms. BYOB on the club floor with mixers and snacks; licensed bar in the lounge. Their site.
Richmond Rondezvouz · Richmond
House parties at least twice a month at rotating private residences, some with a hot tub and pool. Strictly BYOB, RSVP required, cash admission, 21 and over. Their site.
Sinn-Ergy Events · Northern Virginia / DC
Application-only Saturday night parties at changing venues; BYOB with staff bartenders. Their site.
Also listed in directories but not confirmed current when we checked: Black Diamonds Swinger Club. Call or check their pages before you plan a trip.
Where it happens
- Richmond. Home to Virginia Friends and Richmond Rondezvouz, the heart of the state's scene.
- Northern Virginia. Sinn-Ergy and Black Diamonds hold events, and Shadows in Hyattsville, Maryland, is the nearest club.
- Hampton Roads. No regular venue confirmed; Richmond is about 90 minutes away.
Common questions
Is there a swingers club in Virginia?
Virginia has no permanent on-premise club we could confirm, but Virginia Friends holds monthly hotel takeovers in Richmond and Richmond Rondezvouz runs house parties.
Can single men go to Virginia Friends?
No. Virginia Friends is for couples and single women only.
Where do Northern Virginia couples go?
Many drive to Shadows Private Club in Hyattsville, Maryland, or attend Sinn-Ergy's Saturday events.
Checked against each club's own site in September 2026. Clubs change; confirm details with them before you go. More places: every state guide.
